Day 14 - Family - Outsider

 Family                  (Goal Number:         )               Outsider

kindred, tribespeople, related,  lineage, ancestry, community                  alien, stranger, foreigner, intruder, misfit,

                                                                                                                 blacksheep, other

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You treasure youir family, striving at all times to smooth over misunderstandings and maintain  caring and loving relationships. You also have a sense of the faily of humankind. You have a sense of being kindred souls with others. Our ancestry is so intermingled, that even at the physical level, you sense we are at least distant cousins. You try to encourage a sense of community in all groups of which you are a part. You find it difficult to understand violence and war, knowing how we are one family who share this earth. In so many ways, what hurts one, hurts all.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE:

You have lukewarm relationships with most of your family members, and perhaps some very cold and critical relationships with others. This attitude carries over to your attitudes toward humankind in general. You are very selective about who you let in to your inner circle. You do not have a universal outlook toward others. Some are okay, others to be avoided. And some are to be eliminated.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

For you, almost everybody is an outsider. Strangers are immediately suspect. You define foreigners as anyone not in “your” group. They are outsiders to you in all ways, and you apply negative labels to them.You do not see individuals; you see groups and label everyone in the group as the same, usually with a long list of negative descriptors. They are other, and so fair game. You are considered  a prejudiced person, and you are proud of it.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Imagine a world where everyone is treated as family, loved, encouraged, and accepted. Then imagine a world where everyone is treated as an outsider, a suspicious outsider. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of family, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

•        We are one people, one human family.

•        Each person is unique and also sacred, that is, a one-of-a-kind masterpiece.

•        I am getting better at looking beyond the appearance and seeing the inner truth.

•        I see the need for caring behind the pain in the eyes of others.

•        I strive to encourage a sense of community and caring,

•        I welcome new people into my life.

•        We all have something to contribute.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

Ø  Read up on the genealogy that tells us we all descend from one biological female about 200,00 years ago in Africa, and one biological male about 75,000 years ago in the Middle East - all other strands of DNA having died out.

Ø  Interview some of your family members about the stories of their lives with a heart to understand. Perhaps even write some short stories about them, compile them into a booklet, and give it as a gift to other family members.

Ø  Make a point of getting to know some people outside of your usual circle.

Ø  Do something helpful in your town for people you would otherwise never meet, such as volunteer at a food bank, homeless shelter, or a thrift store.

Ø  If you are particularly negative about a certain group, read up on their culture and history.