Day 28 - Love - Hate

 Love                 (Goal Number:         )                                            Hate   

:  tender, caring, accepting, regard/respect, knowledge devotion                            abhor, spite, contempt, detest, loathe, enmity

 AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You exude love in all directions, without discrimination. You are tender and caring toward every person, animal, and plant, recognizing that they are all part of one life. You accept variety, not trying to homogenize life. So, you love and accept people where they are on their journey of awakening, and at the same time, support everyone, including yourself, to grow, expand, and be more fully loving. You come to life with respect for life. You realize that part of being loving is to learn about others and have compassion for everyone. You are a devoted person.

PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You love some, but hold back from others, as you have exclusions based often on biases. You can love deeply, mostly in your in-group. You only tolerate some variety, wanting more to be like whatever your ideal is. You give grace and compassion to some, but not all. You learn some about others, but you only care enough to gain inner knowledge of a select few. Your respect can be surface, for you value good manners, but are not that interested in knowing others beyond a cursory level.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE

Your love is not genuine. Under the surface, you may even abhor people you are pretending to love. You do spiteful things, endeavoring to hurt others. There are so many people for whom you have contempt. Your negative attitude, of course, is not confined to people, but extends to just about everything, every being. You tend to detest happy, loving people. You are at odds with life itself. You feel deeply that you are unlovable and have been given the short stick in life

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of love select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·  I forgive myself and begin to love myself.

·  I know how vital love is for a full life.

·  I practice being as kind and loving as I can be.

·  I respect myself and others.

·  My love is for all life, for people, animals, plants, the planet itself.

·  It is interesting to learn about others, including other life forms.

·  I have decided to love.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·  Look in the mirror every day. Look deeply into your own eyes. Talk to yourself as a life coach. Tell yourself the truth. Encourage yourself to become more and more loving each and every day.

·  Select a person that irritates you. Get to know their story. Listen with an open heart. Silently tell yourself you care and respect this person and all they have gone through. Feel the inner shift you experience. Know that you usually only dislike someone because you don’t have enough understanding of them and their struggles.

·  All the great religions focus on the absolute importance of love. Find some quotes that speak to you and memorize them.

·  Write a kind and caring letter to someone that has been estranged from you. Mail it.

·  Find others who are struggling, and do something kind for them, anonymously.

·  Volunteer at an animal shelter, a hospice, a homeless shelter, a church. Be a beacon of light and love there.

·  Think about someone you know who you consider to be a loving person. Ask them about how they got to that point. Listen, listen, listen.

Remember Love