Oh the questions we can ask. Sometimes "why" leads to blame or down some rabbit hole or the other. "What" can lead to assessment and empowerment.
Friends and relatives ask me frequently "Why is this happening to you?" Or they ask it about their own life situations, "Why is this happening to me?" I think it is the "Job" syndrome. Remember his friends kept trying to define why he was in such a mess in every area of his life. He clearly had some blame to bear in his horrible situation, according to his friends.
I really don't have a succinct, or even hint of an accurate "why" in the vast majority of cases. I can make some wild guesses that tend to lead to a string of wild guesses. Because I have an enemy- maybe??? But then how did this enemy come into my life? Because of karma - maybe??? But then karma for what? Because this lesson will turn out to be helpful - maybe??? Speculation can go on and on.
What I can do is describe what is happening and postulate what to do about it. I can formulate a plan. I can take reasoned out steps to effect some sort of change. I can reassess and take other steps. Here I am empowered, even if the situation has not outwardly changed as yet. "What" leads me to action that can affect the future.
What is happening may be confusing in the why question, but may be empowering in the what question.
What is happening to me right now is different in different areas of my life. In some areas I am soaring along, in some I am in the dark night of the soul. My question is, Lord, what should I do to exit the dark night of the soul? My true self knows that God knows, God guides, God is here, all is well. Even in this odd and precarious situation, God is here. I am not alone. Lead me dear Lord.