Day 15 - Forgiveness - Resentment

 Forgiveness                  (Goal Number:         )           Resentment

patience, pardon, magnanimous, generous                                          discontent, bitterness, anger, fury, acrimony

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE:

Your heart is full of forgiveness and mercy. You realize you need to forgive, not only for the other person or situation, but also to set yourself free from carrying the burden and reliving it over and over. You understand that pardoning does not necessarily mean you give your stamp of approval on what was done, but that you do not fully know the heart of theother person or persons. You cannot set yourself up as judge and jury. You also realize you do not have to have mean-spirited people in your life; you can walk away. You come to life with a generous attitude and are considered a kind and magnanimous person. You know that all great religions teach forgiveness as a virtue, for lack of it inhibits spiritual growth and understanding.And most of all, you forgive yourself,

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You are mostly a forgiving person. However, there are those whom you consider to be unforgivable. You have a tinge of resentment when you see people moving on in their lives, but you feel they don’t deserve to be off the hook. You hold onto some painful memories and refuse to forgive and let go of some things. You have not fully forgiven yourself. You may have some lack of forgiveness for God as well.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

Your ooze resentment. You are not at peace, but experience a great deal of discontent. You are a bitter person a lot of the time. You have flurries of anger and fury over this or that person or situation. You torture yourself with telling the story of how you have been hurt, over and over and over again – to yourself and to anyone who will listen. You refuse to let go and set yourself free. Your negativity is so pervasive that you apply it to even neutral situations. Sometimes, everyone and everything upset you. You are unhappy, and blame everyone else. No one seems to meet your standards, including yourself. It likely has not even occurred to you that you need to forgive yourself. Resentment is your way of life.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Imagine a world healed by forgiveness. Then imagine a world that runs completely on resentment and lack of forgiveness. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of forgiveness, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

•        I forgive myself. I bless myself. I release myself. I love myself.

•        I am all right, right now.

•        I learn from the past and let it go.

•        Is the pain I feel worth the price I have to pay to keep it in place?

•        I am a loving, forgiving, caring person.

•        I forgive as many times as it takes until the memory has lost its sting and is neutralized.

•        Forgiveness is the key I have been looking for.

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REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·       Take a deep breath and let go. I breathe in forgiveness and breathe out resentment.

·       Complete any unfinished business and make amends whenever possible.

·       Watch your thoughts and words, catching any resentful feelings, and immediately turn that around, refusing to live a negative life.

·       Become alert to any opportunities to express kindness and generosity, and do so.

·       Write a note of forgiveness to someone you need to forgive.

· Spend time thinking about how you are responsible for your own life, and how excuses don’t give you what you want and need. Recognize that this is true, not based on what others are doing or saying. Work on becoming inner-directed.

·       Reach out to others you may have hurt and ask for forgiveness.

·       Spend time forgiving yourself for your failings, real or imagined.

·       Forgive God. You are granted freewill. Own your choices, both positive and negative.