Day 16 - Freedom - Confinement

 Freedom           (Goal Number:         )                         Confinement

liberation, spontaneity, choice, individualism, independence                imprisonment, rigidity, restriction, isolation, restrain

  AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You experience a certain level of freedom in all areas of your life, even when going through a valley. You are not controlled by irrational demands, as you are liberated from being other directed. You direct yourself with high inner standards. You have a joyful spontaneity about you, often surprising others. You give yourself permission to make choices in harmony with your higher self. You are about as independent as you can be, yet you work well with others, as long as they do not try to manipulate or control you.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

If you look carefully at your life, you will see that you have given up parts of your freedom. You sometimes give in to others, even if your intuition is shouting “NO”. You only occasionally feel,free enough to be spontaneous. You limit your choices to be in alignment with the group with which you associate. You are more dependent than independent.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

You are imprisoned by your fear of freedom. You need desperately to belong. You are usually rigid in your thinking nd actions, keeping them in line with those of others from whom you seek approval. This restricts your life in a multitude of ways. You often feel isolated, because deep down you know your are not being honest with yourself or others by denying what you really think, and endeavoring to fit in at whatever cost. You are trapped and confined by your own fears and choices.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Imagine a world where people felt free to live and express in joy. Then imagine a world where everyone felt extremely confined, hiding their true selves. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of freedom, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·       I am free to be me, as long as I cause no harm.

·       I have the freedom to expand my thinking and doing.

·       I look outside of the box in which I have placed myself.

·       I have many choices, and I consider them all.

·       It is important to be true to myself, even if others do not agree with me.

·       I am learning to be more and more spontaneous.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·       Make a list of all of the activities, people, groups, and points of view that confine you. Which of them are not good for you? What can you do about that?

·       Make up some exercises to practice spontaneity such as: walk up to a stranger in a store and tell them something positive about themselves (your smile made my day). Invite a friend to a movie at the last minute. Go for a walk in nature and hug a tree. In the shower make up a song.

·       Pick one idea about which you hold rigid ideas and beliefs. Read up about he opposite point of view. Watch a couple of videos of people with opposite points of view. Notice they have some good points. Maybe all is not black vs white, all vs nothing.

·       Find the little cartoon “Joshua in a Box” on the internet and watch it. What does it tell you about freedom and confinement?

Remember Freedom