Day - 17 - Friendship - Estrangement

 Friendship        (Goal Number:         )                         Estrangement

intimacy, trust, harmony, devotion, amicable, respect                              alienation, hostility, distrust, hard feelings, tension

 AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You have several close, long-time friends. You are comfortable to share deply with your friends. At the same time, you are friendly with almost everyone, You are a loyal and devoted friend, and encourage them to be their best and go for their dreams. You are not intimidated by their successes, and you celebrate successes together. You respect your friends and the relationships you share. Friendship is extremely important to you.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You have maybe one or two long-time friends. Your relationships mostly skate on the surface. You can take or leave getting together with others. When you do get together with others, it is pleasant and fine and usually a party or some group activity. You are not disloyal, but you are lukewarm in your commitments to others.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

You feel estranged from most people, so much so that your attitude tends to alienate others. You have not kept in touch with people, so you really don’t have any long-term friends. You may have some long-term acquaintances, but they are not important in your life. You have difficulty trusting yourself and others too. There are some unresolved hard feelings between you and several people. You tend to be tense, when around others who are trying to be friendly.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Imagine a life that is enjoyed with wonderful friends that you trust and love. Then imagine a world of being a stranger to everyone, for you are basically alone.Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of friendship, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·       I know to have a friend, I have to be a friend.

·       I risk making connections that can lead to genuine friendships.

·       I find others that can become good friends.

·       I truly desire to be a friend and have a friend.

·       It is easier and easier for me to be friendly.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

•           Look up someone from your past and get together with them.

·       Join an organization of like-minded people, such as artists, garden enthusiasts, astronomy group, fast walkers, etc..

·       Volunteer at a charity or church.

·       Reach out to those who have hard feelings toward you, or you toward them. Focus on healing that situation.

·       Develop strong self-respect by being true to yourself. Out of that respect, develop respect for others.                      

Remember Fiendship